I came across this the other day, and I love, love, love this post.
She as written a really good summary on both do you/should you write a sex scene in ‘Queer SFF’ as well as some really helpful information for aspiring authors on ‘heat’ i.e. levels of sex scenes and the general parameters for each.
Go, take a look. Let me know what you think.
Quote from one of my favorite parts:
The excuse that a book isn’t worth reading solely because it contains queer sex is homophobic. Cushion it however one may, it is. The fear and disgust that motivates a reader to avoid a book about a queer character has a definitive root, and it isn’t prudishness. (Especially considering that the physical acts being performed in those scenes are frequently the same acts that one might find in straight sex scenes.)
The thing is, you-the-writer can’t win over those readers anyway. It doesn’t usually even matter how graphic your sex is or if you fade to black: someone who is terrified of encountering a queer sex scene in a book is not going to read a book about a queer character.
Really, scope it out!